I have been silent, mostly.
Today I was challenged not to be silent. Having a child changes my view in many ways. I have been careful in my postings but not careless in my beliefs or actions. The most important conversation I had this week was with with my son who is about to turn six…he asked me “why did people vote for a bully?”
And I told him only half of America did and that we are a democracy. We had a crucial conversation about the president elect and we prayed for him. We honestly prayed for him.
And we also talked about 2020, the year that Carter will turn 10. And 2028 when He turns 18 but won’t be able to vote because his birthday will come right after election day. So we talked about 2032. Can you imagine what our world will be like by then? That’s what is ahead of us…not just 4 years or 8 years, but 16 years from now…..
Just a blink of an eye..and I pray that we grow and learn how to build bridges….that we learn that love begins at home. Sounds so nice right???? That is where the conversation ends with a five year old.
Over the past week I have been more heartbroken than ever — with other victims of sexual violence. Of course I cannot have this conversation with a five year old but I can say that given the hateful rhetoric of our president-elect — it does not make it very easy for me to build bridges.
Matter of fact, the “grab the #*$$&” quote is not something anyone would put on letterhead, let alone Presidential letterhead. It’s not just words. It was action without consequence. My question for you…, “Have you ever been grabbed by the #*$$&?”
I have. For three years of my life. No one intervened until it was too late and I was too afraid to ask for help as a fourteen year old.
So tell me America, how am I suppose to cope and set aside my grief and trauma for a greater democracy, in order for a man –who self admitted he could get away with murder— to be given the highest power possible?
So America, why did you vote for a “bully?”
This is honestly where I cannot write anymore. This is not about winning and losing. This is about fighting for resiliency…not between each party…but for humanity.
To learn about and support survivors triggered by the President-elect (and half of America voting for him), please visit: https://www.romper.com/p/how-to-help-sexual-assault-victims-following-trumps-win-because-his-victory-is-a-trigger-22347
Until my son actually has a voice, I will keep praying & striving to build bridges, and doing what I can to make a difference and we will pray for the President-elect.
AND I will be counting down the days….